Comments on: The Sock Wars http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/ embracing the wild heart of parenting Thu, 17 May 2012 15:44:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: 3 Great Band-Aids for Parenting Boo-Boos | Strollerderby http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2165 3 Great Band-Aids for Parenting Boo-Boos | Strollerderby Fri, 16 Jul 2010 20:11:43 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-2165 [...] these are the everyday sins of parenting. I’ve done all of them. Once, I threw a pile of socks at my screaming [...] [...] these are the everyday sins of parenting. I’ve done all of them. Once, I threw a pile of socks at my screaming [...]

]]> By: Love those kids unconditionally — ChildWild http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-653 Love those kids unconditionally — ChildWild Fri, 25 Sep 2009 16:03:02 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-653 [...] made amends. When I’m the one who throws a tantrum, when I raise my voice or make an unfair threat or [...] [...] made amends. When I’m the one who throws a tantrum, when I raise my voice or make an unfair threat or [...]

]]> By: Dan Bodah http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-124 Dan Bodah Fri, 24 Apr 2009 05:42:22 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-124 I also apologize when I cross the line like that. There are definitely those not-so-proud parenting moments when I just get so fed up with the freaking out and sobbing for no apparent reason that I can discern. But, really, I know there's always a reason, and it's always got *some* validity for Si. I should have the patience to meet him where he is and work through it. But I also think there's a valid need for him to learn that that is not always going to happen, that sometimes we Need to Be Somewhere and Will Not Indulge Him. But when, in my impatience, I say something nasty or act out at him, I apologize and try to own up. I also try to explain, without excusing it, why I acted that way and ask how it made him feel so we can talk it over. I agree with Phoenix that it's *good* parenting to do this -- he can see that even his parents make mistakes or lose control of their emotions and act out, and hopefully he learns a little about what that means and that it's not OK and how to make amends for it. I also apologize when I cross the line like that. There are definitely those not-so-proud parenting moments when I just get so fed up with the freaking out and sobbing for no apparent reason that I can discern. But, really, I know there’s always a reason, and it’s always got *some* validity for Si. I should have the patience to meet him where he is and work through it. But I also think there’s a valid need for him to learn that that is not always going to happen, that sometimes we Need to Be Somewhere and Will Not Indulge Him. But when, in my impatience, I say something nasty or act out at him, I apologize and try to own up. I also try to explain, without excusing it, why I acted that way and ask how it made him feel so we can talk it over. I agree with Phoenix that it’s *good* parenting to do this — he can see that even his parents make mistakes or lose control of their emotions and act out, and hopefully he learns a little about what that means and that it’s not OK and how to make amends for it.

]]> By: Dan Bodah http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2375 Dan Bodah Fri, 24 Apr 2009 05:42:00 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-2375 I also apologize when I cross the line like that. There are definitely those not-so-proud parenting moments when I just get so fed up with the freaking out and sobbing for no apparent reason that I can discern. But, really, I know there's always a reason, and it's always got *some* validity for Si. I should have the patience to meet him where he is and work through it. But I also think there's a valid need for him to learn that that is not always going to happen, that sometimes we Need to Be Somewhere and Will Not Indulge Him. But when, in my impatience, I say something nasty or act out at him, I apologize and try to own up. I also try to explain, without excusing it, why I acted that way and ask how it made him feel so we can talk it over. I agree with Phoenix that it's *good* parenting to do this -- he can see that even his parents make mistakes or lose control of their emotions and act out, and hopefully he learns a little about what that means and that it's not OK and how to make amends for it. I also apologize when I cross the line like that. There are definitely those not-so-proud parenting moments when I just get so fed up with the freaking out and sobbing for no apparent reason that I can discern. But, really, I know there’s always a reason, and it’s always got *some* validity for Si. I should have the patience to meet him where he is and work through it. But I also think there’s a valid need for him to learn that that is not always going to happen, that sometimes we Need to Be Somewhere and Will Not Indulge Him. But when, in my impatience, I say something nasty or act out at him, I apologize and try to own up. I also try to explain, without excusing it, why I acted that way and ask how it made him feel so we can talk it over. I agree with Phoenix that it’s *good* parenting to do this — he can see that even his parents make mistakes or lose control of their emotions and act out, and hopefully he learns a little about what that means and that it’s not OK and how to make amends for it.

]]> By: naiad http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-123 naiad Fri, 24 Apr 2009 02:42:12 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-123 The times when I've totally lost it and really screamed at my kids, I've apologized later. The most spirited of my three kids - he definitely isn't ADD, just spirited - couldn't stand the seams in socks when he was little. Drove me crazy, and I'm afraid I wasn't very sympathetic, but I've since learned that it's relatively common. Fortunately he outgrew it after a few years. I love reading your blog :) The times when I’ve totally lost it and really screamed at my kids, I’ve apologized later.

The most spirited of my three kids – he definitely isn’t ADD, just spirited – couldn’t stand the seams in socks when he was little. Drove me crazy, and I’m afraid I wasn’t very sympathetic, but I’ve since learned that it’s relatively common. Fortunately he outgrew it after a few years.

I love reading your blog :)

]]> By: naiad http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2374 naiad Fri, 24 Apr 2009 02:42:00 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-2374 The times when I've totally lost it and really screamed at my kids, I've apologized later. The most spirited of my three kids - he definitely isn't ADD, just spirited - couldn't stand the seams in socks when he was little. Drove me crazy, and I'm afraid I wasn't very sympathetic, but I've since learned that it's relatively common. Fortunately he outgrew it after a few years. I love reading your blog :) The times when I’ve totally lost it and really screamed at my kids, I’ve apologized later.

The most spirited of my three kids – he definitely isn’t ADD, just spirited – couldn’t stand the seams in socks when he was little. Drove me crazy, and I’m afraid I wasn’t very sympathetic, but I’ve since learned that it’s relatively common. Fortunately he outgrew it after a few years.

I love reading your blog :)

]]> By: phoenix http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-122 phoenix Thu, 23 Apr 2009 21:41:22 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-122 Actually, I think that's awesome parenting. You recognized an important life skill for her while also modeling doing the right thing post tantrum be sincerely apologizing. This does not, I think, constitute involving her in your parenting or inviting her to correct you, but does encourage her to hold her own boundaries - something she needs. Actually, I think that’s awesome parenting. You recognized an important life skill for her while also modeling doing the right thing post tantrum be sincerely apologizing. This does not, I think, constitute involving her in your parenting or inviting her to correct you, but does encourage her to hold her own boundaries – something she needs.

]]> By: phoenix http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2373 phoenix Thu, 23 Apr 2009 21:41:00 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-2373 Actually, I think that's awesome parenting. You recognized an important life skill for her while also modeling doing the right thing post tantrum be sincerely apologizing. This does not, I think, constitute involving her in your parenting or inviting her to correct you, but does encourage her to hold her own boundaries - something she needs. Actually, I think that’s awesome parenting. You recognized an important life skill for her while also modeling doing the right thing post tantrum be sincerely apologizing. This does not, I think, constitute involving her in your parenting or inviting her to correct you, but does encourage her to hold her own boundaries – something she needs.

]]> By: Sarah http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-121 Sarah Thu, 23 Apr 2009 21:32:05 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-121 My mom spent a lot of time searching for socks with no seams for my sister, who absolutely could not stand them. We have recently learned that this is A Thing (TM) among ADD (which might sometimes be a medical term for "spirited") children -- who knew? (Ok, probably everyone and I'm slow on the uptake, but still. I was surprised!) My mom spent a lot of time searching for socks with no seams for my sister, who absolutely could not stand them. We have recently learned that this is A Thing (TM) among ADD (which might sometimes be a medical term for “spirited”) children — who knew? (Ok, probably everyone and I’m slow on the uptake, but still. I was surprised!)

]]> By: Sarah http://childwild.com/2009/04/23/the-sock-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2372 Sarah Thu, 23 Apr 2009 21:32:00 +0000 http://childwild.com/?p=1999#comment-2372 My mom spent a lot of time searching for socks with no seams for my sister, who absolutely could not stand them. We have recently learned that this is A Thing (TM) among ADD (which might sometimes be a medical term for "spirited") children -- who knew? (Ok, probably everyone and I'm slow on the uptake, but still. I was surprised!) My mom spent a lot of time searching for socks with no seams for my sister, who absolutely could not stand them. We have recently learned that this is A Thing (TM) among ADD (which might sometimes be a medical term for “spirited”) children — who knew? (Ok, probably everyone and I’m slow on the uptake, but still. I was surprised!)

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